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THERE ARE NO BAD BOYS OR PLAYERS; THEY HAVE NOT JUST GROWN UP!

He is young tall and handsome: an every girls dream. She stares at him and noticing her glance steals the moment to impress….. Cool and composed is his gait and relaxed is his motto. She gets an aura that he is boring into her and therefore she gets nervous and confused only to realize later that he is out of her life. These are stories discussed and really fancied about in radio stations.

Do we really have bad boys out there? I don’t think so. The problem is he is just a confident dude who is out to please! It is high time ladies realized that they are the players themselves and not the guy!

Men are into pleasure as ladies do. The difference is that the pleasure of men ranges with the situation they are in. When lonely; lady, bored; watch games, alone; into the pub.

That guy you view as a player is a made player. He plays the role you want. He is a bad guy because you want him to be. Take it this way, you notice him with a friend, a colleague or maybe just a girl he has just met. With your pride you conclude that he is not a good guy.

On several occasions this image replicates until you are utterly convinced beyond reasonable doubt that he really toys around. Next, feeling the pity of a mother and having your stomach in knots you start building castles in the air that you can change this demented soul.

You show interest and he buys it. That’s when you realize that he was not just bad guy but a good one. Convinced that you will make him change you embark on a rather tender and dangerous journey of conversion. Having a purpose but lacking the mechanism to execute it you fall prey and without knowing it, though at the back of your mind the alarm bells are so loud, you fall for him! The hunter turned the hunted!

There are hundreds of girls who take this path; to straighten lopsided boys. Instead fall into there demands and later cry foul heartbroken!

The rapid eruption of boy player is the fear within a girl that he might change to love her only to realize that he is just a boy still growing and using his other leg to play. Therefore those are not players but boys still growing!
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